How My Life Has Changed Since My Mom’s Death

It has been just over 3 months since my mom unexpectedly passed away from a brain aneurysm and 3 months since my 25-year-old Dusin-Mombrother suffered a stroke.

I still get asked quite often “how am I doing?”

I don’t have anything to compare it to but I think I am doing quite well given the challenges my family has recently gone through. For those wondering, Eric, my brother, has now made a 100% full recovery and is back working out almost everyday. Thanks so much for all the prayers and support!

There are many lessons that I have learned from the past few months but the biggest one for me has to be the sense of urgency I have.

Maybe said another way, the reduction in my procrastination and investing my time, energy, and money into my top priorities.

This has also caused me to get more aggravated with others when they tell me one thing, and do another, or they say something like, I will do that later even though they just told me it is one of their top priorities.

I obviously work and am surrounded, 24/7, by people who are either in the process of transforming their health or life or considering it.

There is a HUGE difference in the mindset of those who are in the process of transforming themselves (actually doing the work) and those who are talking about wanting to change.

I have become hyper sensitive to this.

So many people want to be happier, healthier, fitter, have more energy, reduce their pain, etc, but far fewer are actually willing to invest the time, money, energy, reputation, hopes and dreams to see it come to fruition.

Here are some differences between the DOERS VS SAYERS:

DOERS:
-Understand the importance and schedule the time necessary to get the result they want
-Surround themselves with others who are DOING
-Invest the necessary money, even if that means on cutting back on things that aren’t as high of a priority
-Find the time by reducing less important activities
-Understand there will be roadblocks but are determined to overcome them
-Realize that the pain of their current situation is worse than their perceived pain of making the change and the future pain of NOT DOING is even worse.
-Know there will never be a perfect time to start and the best day to start was yesterday and the second best day is today

SAYERS:
-Look at their busy schedule and refuse to move things around to make the time
-Allow lesser-valued activities to take over their lives for the more important things
-See how much it will cost and compare that to what else they could be buying (bigger house, newer car, more clothes, more vacations, etc)
-See the roadblocks ahead and quit before they start because they don’t want to fail
-Are afraid of what others will think and say about them as they make their change
-Have a short term mindset rather than thinking about the long term outcome
-Think that a year from now life will be in a better spot to make the change

I want to wrap this up and bring it back to the health and fitness topic.

I know you agree with me that your health is one of your top 3 priorities in your life.

If that is true, are you spending the time, energy and resources on your health? Are you exercising and sweating MOST days of the week? Are you educating yourself on what you should be eating or how to be cooking? Are you intentional to surround yourself with friends who are doing the same?

You have the ability to change, but it starts with a decision.

Are you a DOER or a SAYER?6 week challenge

I want to end this message with a few things I have done in the past three months to progress in a few areas of my life. This isn’t meant to impress you but rather impress upon you that it is possible.

With my mom’s passing, I wanted to help even more women her age, dealing with menopause and other aging issues, get healthier, have more energy and meet others who are looking to do the same.

In the past three months, there have been over 621 women who have wanted to learn more about our new Fit over 50 small group training program. I have called each and every one of these incredible women up on the phone. I love doing this but I would be lying if I said there weren’t moments when I didn’t feel like making another call and following up.

Some days, I have worked 16 hours and I really never take a full day off of work, weekends are usually 4-6 hours each day.

To make sure I follow up and not make excuses as to why I shouldn’t call up these women each day, I set specific rules up for myself on how fast I need to follow up and constantly go back to my motivation, to honor my mom and provide a life changing program for these women.

My second example is completing an Ironman competition and learning how to swim. I have considered in the past doing an IM but had a million excuses why I couldn’t do one.

Since death hit so close to home, I know I am not guaranteed another day and I can’t let my dreams just be dreams. I want them to become my reality.

Here are the steps I have taken so far to be ready for the Ironman race in September 2016:
-Joined a biking group that meets 2-3X/week so I can go biking with better riders
-Hired a coach who happens to be a professional Ironman who will guide me through the process and bring me into his group sessions with his triathlon students
-Hired a swim coach to start with the basics of swimming 3x/week
-Told you that I am doing it (accountability and social support)
-Watched over 12 hours of YouTube videos on Ironman training (this isn’t necessary since I have coaches who can teach me but I like to geek out to this stuff).
-Interviewed over a dozen Ironman finishers on their experience and what worked and what didn’t work

I have set myself up to succeed in each of these areas by structuring my day and environment to support it.

Left to my own motivation, I know I wouldn’t run, bike or swim on my own. I need accountability and other people to do it with.

You have the ability to improve any area of your life that isn’t a 10. It won’t be easy but it is made easier when you have a sense of urgency, have a plan and set up your environment to support that goal.

If you are a DOER and are looking for help on crafting your plan and setting yourself up to succeed, check out our 6 Week Challenge, which puts all the pieces together for you. It’s like hiring me as your personal health and fitness coach… at just a fraction of the cost.

You can do it. I believe in you.