Farewell to My Hero… My Mom

I unexpectedly lost my hero and the inspiration behind the entire FM4L movement this weekend…

On Saturday, my mom passed away peacefully in the arms of our family as we sang worship songs to usher her into her eternal place in Heaven.

21 hours earlier, she suffered a massive stroke in her brain and the doctors did all they could to keep her on life support until we could all get there to see her.

Dusin-Mom
If I could sum up her life it was:
-love Jesus
-love dad
-love kids
-love friends
-serve others

While sitting in the ICU holding her hand, kissing her forehead and shedding a lot of tears, I decided I needed to write her a letter, which I want to share with you below.

I read it aloud to her and to everyone gathered around her bed. It took me a long time to get through all the tears but at the end I had made peace with whatever was going to happen next.

I share this intimate and personal letter with you in hopes of honoring the incredible human being my mom was.

“Mom, I can’t believe I am sitting here watching you lay motionless without the ability to do anything but pray and write out my thoughts.

For 32 years, you have been my rock, the woman I looked up to. I know life is like a vapor and I thank God everyday for breath and health for all our family but experiencing this firsthand, with no warning, is more painful and raw than I could have ever imagined.

You were the perfect mom, you had unlimited patience, kindness and compassion and love towards me and every person you came in contact with.

You were the rock of health, never having gone to the hospital except to deliver your 4 children. I can only remember one or two times in my life that you had more than a cold.

I know we made you proud because you would tell us almost everyday.

I have no regrets about our relationship. I am thankful for the nearly daily phone calls we would have in my 20s and early 30s, all the trips to and from Madison and telling you I loved you and you telling me the same.

You were the most amazing wife for dad. You have set a very high standard on who I will marry someday, that is probably why I am still single at 32.  =)

If this is your time to meet Jesus (I hope it is not quite yet), we will take care of dad and make sure he has everything he needs, maybe even a chef.  =)

I can’t change what is happening but I can step up my game and be a bigger man and extend your legacy here on earth.

You are the most spiritual woman I have ever met and showed Jesus’s love each and every day.

You inspired me to inspire others.

You believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself.

I love you more than I have ever told you and you will be in my daily thoughts and prayers until the day we meet in Heaven.”

Your eldest son,
Dustin

While watching my mom quietly sleep, I kept asking the question how can her legacy continue on?  She believed so much in the Transformation Center and all of the Fit Moms for Life programs.

Dustin and mom fm4l gear
Then it hit me, let’s create the Joy “Fit Moms” Scholarship fund to help others who desperately want and need what the TC and FM4L have to offer.

You can check out this new fund here->-> http://www.gofundme.com/fitmoms

But more than anything else, you can honor my mom by doing whatever you need to do to take care of yourself and your family, and inspiring others to do the same.

You can live your best life, whether that is by working with FM4L or doing something else that challenges, inspires and motivates you. That is what she wanted for each and every one of us.

Keep loving,
Dustin Maher

Comments

  1. Michelle says:

    I am so deeply sorry for your immeasurable loss Dustin. your beautiful letter painted her as a lovely woman that many were touched by. Its hard to lose part of your foundation, but knowing that shes with Jesus helps us transition. I lost my mom( and best friend) at the age of 31, she at 53. Too young. She was the picture of health until Cancer decided otherwise. Its been 15 years now and not gonna lie, there are still times i want to pick up the phone and tell her something funny the kids did. :/
    You are an amazing man. Keep the faith and legacy of your mom alive 🙂
    Michelle Renshaw Logan, Utah